Hey Guys,

I’d like to talk to you about time wasters. These are the gals who absolutely insist on engaging in long drawn out online conversations before they’ll give you their name, phone number, or even book a date with you.  Here’s a message that a buddy of mine sent to me:

Thanks for the great response! I would prefer to chat via this site a few more times before we start exchanging personal information. I’ve had coffee with 3 gentlemen of which looked nothing like their profile and were painfully awkward so I understand your comment about people not responding well to another confident person…especially a woman. My photos are current and my name is Stephanie, when I first posted this site I was a little gun shy I know who I am and what I’m looking for so please don’t take offense to anything I write, again I’m getting the hang of this and there’s a lot of fraud going on here.

He was completely perplexed about how to answer this. So for the benefit of all of us, let’s break it down.

First, she’d prefer to have a few online conversations before deciding to go anywhere with the experience. Here’s the thing. You’re both on the site to date. Plain and simple. TO DATE. Not to become pen pals, best friends, or even each other’s therapist. Sure, she’s had a few bad experiences. Who the hell hasn’t? And yeah, guys lie all the time. This is why in The Dating Commando I tell you to be HONEST.

Being dishonest only results in awkwardness and she won’t date you again. Ever. Forget about your mad pick-up skills. Lie to her from the get-go and it’s over.

She’s a “confident” woman. Read this as “player”. She’s on the site to feel good about herself and have men chase and fawn all over her. She’s there to pick and choose at will, to feel desired and beautiful. You’re dealing with a serial dater. If you want to win this one, you absolutely MUST turn the tables and get her working hard to win you over. Don’t fall into her trap. Make her work for you.

“I know what I’m looking for…blah blah blah.” The best way to handle this is to straight up ask her what she’s looking for. Tell her you’d love to hear all about it over coffee or a glass of wine. If anything she doesn’t go for it, kick her to the curb right away and move on. Make no apology for it and don’t even offer an explanation. Respond with “I’m going to pass. All the best.” and leave it at that. She’ll respond with either “Ok, no probs” or “who the #(@$%! do you think you are?!” Either way, DO NOT reply. Just move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

And hey, if you do win her over, BONUS! Have fun and enjoy yourself. Don’t forget to buy a copy of The Dating Commando

In short, the moment she says she’d like to “chat” for a bit, it’s done. Move on, say goodbye and find someone else.

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Great dating starts with an equally great headline.  No doubt about it, this unique, short piece of text says more about you than a few simple words ever can alone.  Nothing works harder for you to grab her attention and have her responding to you.

Before I give you the list (and it’s an AWESOME list compiled from the 101 BEST dating profile headlines of all time), there’s a few things you need to know about writing the best dating profile headline.  First off, avoid saying anything negative.  And I mean absolutely NO NEGATIVE comments.  No negative phrases, no negative connotations, no negative anything.  Second, NO and absolutely NO sexual references.  Believe me, while you think your greatest asset is your monster dick, she probably won’t.  So play it safe and don’t do it.

When she’s searching the dating sites looking for the new love of her life, the first thing she’s going to look at is the headline of your dating profile. If you have a bad or uninteresting profile headline, she’ll pass you up and move on.  A successful dating profile headline, on the other hand, will have her reading and relishing every single succulent word you write.  A successful headline:

• says something unusual
• says something interesting
• says something exciting
• says something absolutely outrageous
• is creative and PROVOCATIVE
• is ALWAYS positive

Here’s a couple of examples of the best dating profile headlines to get you started:

“Just Friends? I have enough friends…”
“Bad Boy Seeks Good Girl”
“More Than Just Your Boy-Toy”
“Rich, Well Traveled, Good Looking Guy Seeks Gal Who’ll Believe Anything”
“Victoria’s Secret? No. But I Could Be Your Secret!”
“Free Trial – Inquire Within”
“The Guy Your Mother Warned You About”

Got the idea? Those are some pretty eye-catching dating profile headlines that will get her attention BIG TIME! Okay, thanks for your patience and let’s get on with The 101 Best Dating Profile Headlines that the Dating Commando has found!

1. What if someone you never met, someone you never saw, someone you never knew turned out to be the someone for you?
2. 333: I’m only half evil!
3. Four out of Five Doctors Recommend: Me!
4. A Cut Above The Rest
5. Dating Headline? That’s So Yesterday!
6. They Call A Day Without Sunshine – Night
7. A Good Man Is Hard To Find, But A Bad One Is Hard To Resist
8. A Good Man Is Easy To Find: Just Look Below
9. A Hard Act To Follow
10. A Hopeless Romantic with No One To Romance With
11. A Little Bit Curious
12. A Penny For Your Thoughts
13. A Perfect Body and a Perfect Mind
14. A Road Less Traveled Is A Journey Remaining To Be Seen
15. A Weird Combination of Nerd and Nympho
16. Absinth Makes The Heart Grow Warmer
17. Adventurer, Risk Taker, Artist
18. Ahoy! Looking For A Shipmate!
19. Turns Out Not All Men Are Created Equal After All
20. All That Glitters Is Gold
21. Almost Too Good To Be True
22. Am I Hot Enough For You?
23. Ambitious Risk Taker Seeks Partner
24. Any Good fE-mails Out There?
25. Appearance Catches The Eye, Personality Captures The Heart
26. Are The Other Guys Here Really That Uncreative?
27. Are We On The Same Page?
28. Arrogant Prick With Soft Sensitive Side (Just Joking – There Is No Sensitive Side)
29. Beauty Does Not Impress Me
30. Blue Eyes Looking For Blue Skies
31. Bookworm Seeks Bookmark To Keep His Place
32. Boy Toy Looking To Be Played With
33. Can I Ask You For Directions?
34. Can You Guess My Favorite Spot To Be Kissed?
35. Cat Lover Seeks Purrrfect Lap
36. Cheap At Twice The Price
37. Chocolate Lover Seeks Something Sweeter
38. Click To Add To Cart
39. Coffee, Chocolate, Men. Some Things Are Just Better Rich
40. Coffee, Tea, or Me?
41. Collector’s Item
42. Crazy Like A Fox
43. Cultured Risk Taker Seeks Selfish, High Maintenance, Self Centered Woman
44. Dating Can Be Fun, I can Prove It!
45. Dating Shouldn’t Be Difficult!
46. Disneyland Isn’t The Only Place Dreams Come True
47. Don’t Be Shy…I Don’t Bite – Most of the Time
48. Don’t Forget To Blink
49. English Is My First Language, Sarcasm My Second
50. Ever See A Perfect Body Before?
51. Experimental Cook Seeks Food Taster
52. Finders Keepers
53. First Mate Seeks Captain
54. Fish Looking To Be Caught
55. Free 30 Day Trial!
56. Free To A Good Home
57. Fun, Fun, Fun – Did I Mention Fun?
58. Future Soccer Moms Apply Here
59. Geek Seeking Geekette
60. Going All The Way
61. Good Date, Guaranteed!
62. Great Catch Seeks The Same
63. Great Cook Seeks To Add Spice To Your Life
64. Handy Man Has Own Tools
65. HauteStuff
66. Have Wings…Will Travel
67. Here Today, Will Be Gone Tomorrow
68. Hi! I’m Mr. Right And I Heard You Were Looking For Me
69. How Is Sex Like Snow? (Answer: You never know how many inches you’ll get or how long it’ll last!)
70. I’m Not Opinionated, Just Always Right
71. I don’t Bite – Hard
72. I Hate Paris Hilton
73. I’ll Bend You Over Backwards
74. Jerk Seeks Bitch
75. Just What The Doctor Ordered
76. Kicking Ass And Taking Names!
77. Kid Tested, Mom Approved
78. Laughter Is The Best Medicine
79. Let’s Get Physical
80. Love At First Site
81. Love Me For My Mind Not My Body; Play With My Body Not My Mind
82. Magnet Seeks Steel
83. More Fun Than A Barrel Of Monkeys
84. Music Video Director Seeks Hot Video Chick
85. Next!
86. No Witty Headline
87. Not A Model, I Just Look Like One
88. Now It’s My Turn!
89. Oxytocin Is To Love, As Testosterone Is To…
90. PG-13? Not Me!
91. Puzzled Man Seeks Missing Piece
92. Quit Grabbing My Butt!
93. Ready, Set, Go!
94. Saving One Bored Person At A Time
95. Seduce My Mind And You Have My Body, Find My Soul And I’m Yours Forever
96. Sexy, Outgoing…and you?
97. Slippery When Wet
98. Trust Me…I’m A Doctor!
99. Unwrap This Package
100. Wanted By Many, Taken By None, Looking At Some, Waiting For One
101. WARNING: This Profile May Cause Insomnia And Impaired Concentration!

Well, there you have it! 101 of the BEST dating profile headlines that we here at the Dating Commando have ever come across.  Use them for the purposes of good, not evil!

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The Dating Commando
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Look, there are seven stupid mistakes that almost every guy makes some time when looking for the love of their life on the dating websites. The results are frustration and disappointment. But you can avoid these mistakes completely!

Here they are:

1 – Winks and Smilies. Taking the easy way out

There are more dating sites than you can shake a stick out and competition for members is fierce. Most of the sites compete by adding gimmicky features like “winks,” “smilies,” “nudges,” or even worse “so-and-so likes you” flags. With just one click, you can send her a wink and let her know she caught your eye. Seems like it could work, doesn’t it?

Well here’s the scoop. Women, even the ugly ones, are swamped with messages from guys. Depending on her looks, she can receive as much as 100 messages a day! We go into a lot more detail in the book, but for now you’ve got the idea. Now get this: for every one message she receives, she might receive as many as 4 winks. So our smokin’ hot gal who’s getting 100 messages a day is also getting 400 winks each day. That’s a lot of winks. Still think your wink will stand out?

So while you think this is a great icebreaker, it’s more of a deal breaker. Balls up and be a man. If you like her, send her a proper message using the techniques and tips detailed in the book.

2 – Sex. Talking about sex too soon in the game.

How can you resist the temptation? You’ve just connected with the hottest gal ever and SHE LIKES YOU! And hey, it has been awhile since you’ve had a decent lay. And let’s not forget you’re hung like a horse, take sex seriously, are willing to try (and have tried) anything, and you’re incredibly good at it. So much so that most women stalk you relentlessly for years after you’ve dumped them. So why not let her know?

I’ll tell you why! Because not only will you creep her out and scare her off, but also EVERY OTHER GUY has told her the exact same thing.

Instead, hold off on the sex and sexy talk. Wait until you’ve established a bit of a face-to-face rapport, or better yet, wait until she allows you to “show” rather than “tell”. My rule of thumb…flirt, be sexy but not creepy, and allow her the opportunity of taking it to the next level.

3 – Profiles. Writing BAD profiles

Believe it or not, and yeah…it was a complete shock to me too, women actually read your profile! Huh. Go figure. So I guess if they’re actually reading them, maybe…just maybe, you should take your time and actually write something decent!

A profile isn’t just a collection of random words thrown together to fill up space. It’s your sales pitch and it absolutely MUST sell you in a positive and attractive light. It’s critical to your very online dating survival.

Most guys write crappy profiles that barely show them as a notch above a cave man. Seriously. Some of the profiles I’ve reviewed look like they were written by a mentally impaired or drunk (or both) four year-old. I just can’t stress enough how important it is to communicate properly and effectively through your profile. It’s the one key factor that will make you stand out above and far ahead of the other 99 guys who messaged her today.

We’ve devoted an entire chapter to writing the ultimate Kick-Butt profile that will command results. So check it out.

4 – Messages. Writing BAD messages and Even Worse Initial Contact Messages

While researching the dating sites for the book, we created contact scripts and sent them to multiple women. Essentially, the same message to as many different gals as possible. For our purposes, that worked out just fine. However, from a dater’s perspective, this isn’t so wise.

In the book, we definitely promote the idea of a contact script. It’s a lifesaver and will save you tonnes of time. Especially if you find something that really works well for you. Why re-invent the wheel? However, one of the other important things taught in the book is that you absolutely MUST read her profile and include something from it in your message to her. You need to find the underlying theme of her profile and repeat it in your initial contact message.

This will make your message feel less canned and far more personable. And it’s personality that will sell you.

5 – Love. Overly romantic too fast

This is a big one. So many guys get sappy and overly romantic in their profiles and contact messages to women. There’s not a lady on the planet that’s going to believe that the moment you read her profile, you fell madly in love with her and can’t live your life without her being a part of it. It reeks of desperation, it makes you look weak, and it’s pretty much guaranteed to make her delete it after she finishes barfing.

Research shows that women receive 3 basic types of messages. The first: the lame attempt at saying hello through the form of a wink, nudge or “U R PRTY CALL ME” message. The second: the sappy love-sick puppy who fell madly in love with her from the very first word of her profile, and he really needs to let her know the incredible impact she’s already had on his life. And the third: a decent, respectable, well thought out and crafted message that is guaranteed to captivate her interest and encourage her to respond.

The vast majority of messages fall into category 1. Well over 90% of the messages researched were of this type. The second type represented 8% of the messages. And a mere 2% were actually well crafted “Kick-Butt” messages that inspired response.

Think about it like this. If she’s received 100 messages, 90 of them will be absolute garbage that she’s going to completely ignore and delete. 8 of them will be sappy love stories or crappy poems that are just going to creep her out – and she’ll delete them. 2 of the messages will be worthy of response. Which category do you want to be in? That’s what I thought!

6 – Impatience. Not giving it enough time

So you didn’t get a response to the category 1 message (wink, nudge, “hey baby”) that you sent. Or, you sent a sappy category 2 love story to her and no response. Maybe you were one of the very rare guys who sent her a category 3 well crafted kick-ass message and nodda.

Here’s the thing. Not everyone is online every single moment of the day. It may take time for her to login. Even then, she may have dozens or hundreds of messages to sort through before she even finds your message. If she’s a decent looking gal with a better than “okay” profile, she could have hundreds and hundreds of messages to sift through. And on top of that, your message may have such an incredible impact on her that she needs time to figure out how to craft an appropriate response (which may end up being a really short sentence because she just couldn’t figure out what to do). Either way, it takes time.

On top of this, women LOVE to be chased. Why? Because it makes them feel that you care enough to make the effort. Now that you know this, it kind of makes sense to be somewhat persistent. Don’t give up just because she deleted your message after reading it or she deleted it without reading it. Try again.

But for sure, give it some time. Just because most things online can be acquired instantly, don’t mistakenly fall into the trap of thinking that you can win her over in a few minutes.

7 – Anger. Getting angry or frustrated and taking it out on her

The fastest way to being labeled a complete jerk and guaranteeing she’ll block you from ever being able to contact her again is to get mad at her. It’s remarkable how many guys will send a message and then within a few hours send an angry rant bitching her out for not having responded.

What’s also amazing is the number of men that will lash out because she responded with a “no thanks” message or deleted their message after reading it without responding at all.

Your best bet is to be a man about the whole thing. If she doesn’t respond within a timely manner (3-7 days), send her another message. If you don’t get a response after that, move on to someone else and let it go.

Now do be aware that someone women can get down right nasty. If she says something offensive or stupid to you, you can play it two ways. You can move on or you can engage in a battle of words. I’d prefer just being a man about it and moving on. So much easier and doesn’t waste any more of my time.

So there you have it. Seven mistake that almost every guy makes and what to do about them.

Jennifer Collins
for The Dating Commando

www.dating-commando.com